Good morning Sunday! While sitting here doing my treatment, I have had some things occur to me.
We are each given things that make us unique and special. Yet, so many times we stuff those in the closet. Why?! When we ignore those things, we not only Rob ourselves but we rob other people of things that they NEED. We all have something to bring to the table. I’m all too guilty of not giving 💯. I’m always trying to do better. I can’t help but notice that so many people don’t even try to share their talents.
If I could have one thing in this life it would be to do the things I am capable of doing 10 fold. I would love to have 10 of myself! Ok, we’d have to take out my all too human faults, but seriously oh the things I could do!
I want everyone to feel just how amazing and important they are, even on their ugly days. I want people to understand how much we can do TOGETHER…if only we could set our differences aside. I believe that all of us deserve to be loved and happy and to share that with others. We hold so much back. We are afraid to put our real selves out there and be open and vulnerable. We are afraid of being judged yet we are judgmental. We stay in our own little safe places… heaven knows what would happen if we just put on the blinders and do what we are meant to do. That’s just not option right? WRONG!
I am so blessed to know so many amazing, creative, giving, loving people! I can’t even express my gratitude for what they add to my life. You are each part of my table. Some of you under estimate yourselves. You hold back all that you have to offer others. I’m saddened to see so many people robbing themselves of all the awesome experiences that are waiting for THEM! It’s time. Not just because it’s the holidays, but because the people who need us are silently waiting in the wings for us to find them.
A kind gesture. Some kind words, a listening ear. A few odd things laying around that we don’t use…a simple conversation starting with” “How are you REALLY doing?” Such simple things. These things open up friendships that can last a lifetime. They may change someones life. You just don’t know unless you put yourself out there! I want to share an example. Not for bragging rights. But I have been able to quietly see and feel like I have a made a difference that I wasn’t aware of.
When I had my shop open in 2013, I got the chance to really meet and get to know my customers. One day a young couple came in. Somehow we got to talking about adoption. I commented that all of my kids are adopted and even though they each came in a different way, they were each truly mine. They were in the right place. The male in the couple said “you know, that’s awesome and there is one person who showed that example and made me want to adopt for many reasons.” I inquired about his experience. What he responded with brought me to tears and lack of words.
He then told me the story about his family. His parents were addicts. There was a good size age gap in the children so when dcfs stepped in, most of his family was placed with the oldest brother. Except one child. The youngest. He was special needs and placed with a foster family. He described his brother and as he spoke his words became loud and clear and at first, my stomach sank. He began describing the most incredible woman who he wished with all that he was could have kept his brother. She was amazing. She taught his brother how to feed himself. Dress himself. Go out in public. He was accountable for age appropriate things. He learned right from wrong and this Child who was 9 and never spoken a word was learning how to talk and feed himself. He was learning how to bathe and use the bathroom. He was showing signs of affection and growth. At the end if his story, he said these words I will never forget.” This foster mom who cared for my brother helped him become human in the eyes of others. I wish she could have kept him. He would have had the best Mother ever.” Then he said his brothers name. He was speaking about me. His brother was my first foster child. He couldn’t walk, talk feed himself. Nothing and I feared that I wasn’t going to be able to handle him. His precious little soul taught me more than I could ever give him. I began to cry and I didn’t disclose who I was. I simply said I thought it was awesome that someone made such an impact and didn’t know. I told him I knew he was going to make a great father. I hugged him and told him I admired them and hoped they would continue to share their journey. He said as he was leaving, ” I would give anything to hug that woman and tell her thank you.” After they left, I sat down and cried the most happy tears that I have ever cried. I had made an impact on someone else’s life. Little old me. To this day, I have never disclosed that he was talking about me.
You just don’t know how big you are in this giant world of tiny people capable of such incredible things. ❤️
More Love. Less Hate. ❤️ H